How do you help someone with out getting in the middle of things? That's a tough question to answer the right way cause there is no way to really truly "help" the person and stay out of things besides just being there when they need to rant and rave at someone other then the person they are truly mad at, or hurt by. You can give them your two cents worth of knowledge or tell them how you would think you would handle the situation if you were in their place. But does that actually help them? Do you truly and honestly know how you would act and handle it if the same thing happened to you? You can say you do but you will never know till it actually happens to you. God forbid it actually does.
I have heard from other people and even my own mom that it's best to not get involved with other peoples problems/drama. I know this and I try my hardest to stay out of things but my friends problems have a way of finding me. I mostly take on the role of counselor/therapist I let my friends rant to me all the time about problems that they have. I'm a great listener and even sometimes have a point of view that they themselves didn't even see or think of cause they are so close to the problem. I have such a good heart and want everyone to be happy and try my best to make it happen even if it is for just a few seconds when I crack a horribly corny joke. But if they smile and or laugh I know for one second they weren't thinking about what was bothering them. Trust me there are times where I want to take a person who has hurt a friend and yell at them and ask them what the heck is wrong with you, why did you do that? but then my little voice in my head says wait don't do what your thinking cause it could only make matters worse. So my heart silently breaks for my friend and I feel their pain and wish I could do more for them knowing in my heart that the only thing I can do is be a shoulder for them to lean on and an ear to listen.